Why Am I Frustrated Student?

"Education" is one word, but this is not just a just word, this is a world of all Students. Every student spend approx. 5 years to make his future better. In this journey they have too much pressure or you can say tension. This is happening with all faculty students. When a student comes from rural area he faces difficulties in language, behavior of other students or some financial crisis. Lack of guidance to uneducated family child for his higher education. We have some reasons of frustration and how to overcome from that.

Language Issue.

There is no doubt about mother tongue language. Mother tongue language is good for child mental growth. But when a student gets education in different language that time he faces difficulties. So prepare yourself before you go to next level of education.

Environment.

Rural area students don't have habit of free environment. When they go for higher education in city area they never feel comfortable with the city environment and adjustment is also one more biggest challenge in front of them. Due to this, they get frustrated but adjustment is very important in any situation of life.

Time management.

Most of the students think about "How to manage the time?" College attendance, assignments, home work, practicals, additional tuition, and after doing all these things there is revision of studies with managing their daily routine. This is not an easy task.

Financial Condition.

This is a biggest challenge in front of financially weak families. As we are aware about today's school and colleges fees structure. Common man can not afford the top rated college easily, only because of child's future they take risk of educational loan or mortgage loan. Because of this student is always under pressure of study, good ranking or how and when he will get job. If I will not perform well then what will happen or how he will get job and pay his loan.

Not performing well like earlier.

This is happening with some students. In school age they are performing well but after joining college or changing school/ college their performance goes down and because of this they gets frustrated. May be they are not familiar with new environment, teaching methods or suddenly there is too much study within a time limit. There is one more reason that need to be mentioned sources of entertainment. Most of the movies show how to love and enjoy in the college but I have personally not seen such movie which guide our students for their study. I know every movie have some message but I don't think so anyone watches for getting message from it but they definitely grab bad things.

Coordination with other student.
We need good relation in between seniors and juniors or other students but sometime this is not happening. As a senior student we must help/ guide junior / fresher student. Ragging this is very important and serious word in student life. Some students pressurize fresher student to do whatever they want. Its bad thing but is still going on in some area. Nobody highlight it because they are afraid of  their seniors. In this case some students commit suicide also. There are some laws and restriction on such things, but it is successfully implemented, no one is aware about it.

Trap of bad habits.

In school / college age student have lot of curiosity of trying new things and following other students. As I said earlier, entertainment media also show such things. Student try to behave like that and sometime they trapped in bad habits for entire life. Some students try to come out but they purely gets habituated of that and they get frustrated.

Under age Love.

This is one more thing which we learn form entertainment media. Entertainment media show such love related scene in college days and student also try to behave like that. In some cases they forget about our actual future target and why they joined this college. In such cases after break up student gets frustrated and he does not do anything.

Exceptions of Job.

Most of the students and their parents expect immediate job after completion of the education. But they forget about their child's interest. They are always putting pressure to get job earlier. They don't try to understand how students suffer after failing interview or you can say rejection. Parents just think about what will neighbors / society say. Due to it student gets frustrated.

How to overcome?

Some people define status on the basis of speaking language. But they forget actual definition of language which has a source of communication We need to treat like that only or need to give preference till reach your goal Please don't keep phobia of that in your mind.

We need to learn adjustment with whatever we have, however we are. We are expecting too much and whenever that expectations not fulfill we gets frustrate. So keep expectations but don't get frustrate, if  any expectation not fulfill then just move ahead for next try.

Time management is not an easy task. Keep one dairy with you or use your mobile reminder for your daily task. This is good habit to keep your life stress free. Keep some limitation for that to avoid addiction.

Before choosing college or faculty check your financial health. Don't keep too much burden of finance on your family. If student have confidence and quality then small collage students also reached on top position just we must need clear focus on our target. To reduce financial burden part time job is better option for that.

Performance is very important in every stage of life. But we need to understand one very important thing from it, if your play ground change then you get one more chance of educate yourself more than before. You must keep practicing to be a performer.

For ragging case you must intimate collage/ school administrator immediately without wasting time.
Keep away from these students. Try to make a good friend and communicate with everyone.

Some students having bad habits try to keep away from these student. If anyone is offering or forcing you to smoke or drink then keep away from these student. If you have full confidence on you and your mind then bad habit not addict you.

As I said in my earlier article, college is not made for finding your love one, just focus on your career. After career you can search your true love. Everything is depends on your mind. Don't spoil you career in such silly things.

Job exception is not bad but if someone is forcing you then, it is not good also. Some time you keep some patience to get the job. Some time we get job after lot of rejections. Parents need to understand their child's situation. I hope now you get some clarity on student situation. Student life is not that much easy as we think. So, keep understanding our child and others also.

Am I Lonely..?

We have lot of options to live our life with own way. Some people always engage with their own work, social activity and some are engaging in different things. There are some people/children who are not joining with society or not playing games with children. But they are silent part of the our society. There is any reason behind his/her silent? or they like to live alone.

Not understanding things.

All people or children don't have equal grasping power. There are various reason behind it. Some peoples/ child not understanding things easily and that's why they stayed alone or you can say feeling alone. These peoples need more guidance and helping hands from our society.

No one can understand me.
Few people are always thinking like this. They are always chasing such situation. Only because of they are small or they not able to present themselves that's why no one listening him or neglect and because of this behavior or other, such phobia developed in child / persons mind. They blame everyone like no one understand me and they preferred keep silent. We need to identify such person and try to listen them before they feel lonely.

Not comfortable with other people.

These people are not feeling comfortable with other peoples. They try to live alone due to various reason. They never express their feelings with anyone easily. They not try to copy anyone and most of time they live with their own style. These people personally change them self and need to enjoy the movement.

Fear of Loose.

Most of the people thinking because of his intervene they loose their relationship with someone. Some time they trying to hide past from lovable person that's why they always keep mum. This fear always forcing them to stay alone. We must change such thinking. May be because of it we can loose someone.

Someone take benefit of my behavior.

These children and peoples knows their own weakness. They are always thinking, if I talk with anyone then they will know my weakness and may be they will take benefits of that. Some peoples don't want to speak about their life for avoiding communication they preferred to stay alone. These people learn how to make judgement on their expressing skill like how to and where to express.

Low confidence.

Who are having low confidence, they never try to speak in public or hesitate while speak with other. These people always stay away from additional activity. They have already decided before trying "I am not capable to do it!". Due to it people not allow such people to join with them or always harass him. Confidence is very important and its not possible to buy from anywhere, we must develop inside.

Past Incident.

With the past bad incident These peoples stuck with it. Again and again they remind that and most of the time they think about it in alone. They never try to come out from it. Sometime they never get solution on it and they feel lonely.  People have challenges in their life and everyone try to find out the solution on that. Sometime they get it but when they fail they go in depression and feel lonely. If we facing trouble or any issue with the past incident then we must forget about it to keep our mind calm and to move ahead in life.

Why this is happening with me only?

Everyone struggle in their own life for achieve different goal as they decided. When they fail, they are thinking like this "Why this is happening with me only?" and because of it they get upset. Whenever they feel such situation they demotivate them self with this sentence and they start feeling lonely. If we are feeling like this then we must remember one thing, there is a reason behind happening anything. Need to learn from it to come out.

Most of the people feels lonely in their life. But sometime only they are responsible for it. You have potential inside you but you don't know about it. Every one has something special inside. Just try to find and move ahead with it.

Try to increase your knowledge to understand the things. If people not understand you then don't try to explain them or get upset due to it. It mean they don't have understanding capacity. Just forget about it and enjoy the things. If you are not comfortable with some people try to find out to whom you feel comfortable. Don't think about to whom you will loose or gain this is simple life and sometime time will bring back them to you. For behavior you must upgrade yourself with increasing your knowledge. Confidence is mandatory in our life without it you not able to do anything. Try to motivate yourself because no one can know more then you. Human past playing very important role in his future but we need to learn from past and act in present to avoid future mistakes. We are just thinking it's happening with me only but reality is every one suffer from different challenges but not saying this. They try to overcome from it to avoid loneliness. 

Why Our Child is Angry Bird?

We heard about lot of unwanted things about children. Children gets frustrated, gets angry easily, doing which is not socialized things or some time they are taking extreme step of life like suicide. For minor reason they are taking big risk or you can say creating difficulties for their parents.

Why this is happening?

Anger is a biggest reason behind of it. When something happens against our expectation then we can get angry. If you can say ego then question is, What are the exceptions of our child and how they get egoistic in small age?

Fulfillment of child expectation in early age.
We can fulfill every expectations of our child in early age due to this child gets habitual about that. If you say no afterword then he gets angry. We can always keep some limitation for it. Sometime child need habit of listening "No".

Impact of social media.
In this mobile world child learn lot of unwanted things from social media and try to behave like that. Same things happen with TV serial (mellow drama). He thinks about his own freedom even though they don't have acknowledge about outer world or you can say that understanding capacity. Try to keep away from it with some limitation whenever its possible.

Parents not realizing their financial weakness to the child.
Every parents want to give better life to their children. Parents try to fulfill their child expectations but they don't realize him about financial weakness with this parent gets trapped. Some time child is expecting beyond their limitation and this time he not try to understand their situation. So always keep aware to your children about your financial conditions when its weak.

Copy of other children.
Actually this is a human behavior. Children also try to copy other children while demanding something. Some where else they seen this behavior. Some children do the acting of cry because they know, if they cry then they will get everything. Try to engage such children with diverting subject or object for a while.

Unfulfilled Promises of parent.

Parents always promise their children without thinking and will not get complete. Due to the same children gets angry every time. Whenever you promise your child think once "Can I able to fulfill?" Once you promise then try to complete because this is a matter of belief. They learn from your behavior.

Stress of study.

Study is the one more reasons of stress. Due to heavy study or pressure of parents make them angry. They don't know how to deal with it. Direct or indirectly parent pressurizing to their child about the marks and studies. We must teach some techniques of enjoying study and how to mange all timetable to make it easy.

Comparison with other children.
This is one more mistake parent always do unknowingly. They are comparing their children with other child and because of it child gets angry. We must motivate our child with other examples without comparing other children. Some motivational stories always help in this case.

Break up.

I don't know why children are falling in love weather its not having actual knowledge about it. May be this social media direct or indirect responsible for it. In education age they are doing something unnecessary things. Proper guidance required for our child, about what to do and what not to do in the school and college age.

Lack of sleep.
Today lot of children not taking proper sleep. This is definitely impacting on their behavior. Late night activities on social media, watching movies due to it child not sleeping properly. So we need to follow "Early to bed Early to rise" formula.

Communication.
Today Child and parent communication is reducing day by day due to the various reasons. Child is thinking their parent don't have time for him/her because of it communication gets reduced and misunderstanding increases. Then child gets angry and misbehave with their parents. Family vacation is best option for this. One family vacation will definitely increase this communication.

These are some reasons and due to it child gets angry. It's our responsibility to give a proper guidance on every movement of life. Yoga and meditation is very important part of life to reduced stress and keep ourselves calm. We must teach our child also. When we wake up early morning we listen some silent songs or music which will keep you calm for entire day. Some time anger is required but our child need to learn how to manage and where to implement that to get better benefits from it. Responsibility of parents is very important to understand them.

How To Handle Mobile and Children?

We know very well, Excess of anything is always bad and it's ruled by nature. Today's biggest challenge in front of parents is mobile and children. Some children attack their parents and some are committing suicide. As we know very well mobile is a machine and it is not operated by itself, we are commanding that. But, when we are thinking about children they have their own thinking we can just guide them and may be they will act according to that guidance. Parents are always complaining about their child "My child not leave without mobile!" Now question is "Why child not leave without mobile?" Lets see.

Who is starting this addiction?
Parent make their child habitual about the mobile. Most of the parent showing mobile to their children since age of 0.6 yrs. and some reasons are when child is crying, not eating food, showing colorful videos to keep him engage. Because of it child gets attracted towards mobile like as usual every child's curiosity. So try to avoid this things.

Parent are busy with mobile in front of child.
All parent are busy in their schedule. But we are forget about our children. as I said in old article Parent behavior is impacting on today's generation. This thing apply here. Child is watching their parents who are always engaged with the mobile so children also get attracted as usual. so try to avoid using mobile in front of child. When its necessary try to leave that place for a while.

Try to restrict unwanted things from mobile.
We need to restrict unwanted things from our and child mobile. There are lot of unnecessary clicks opening wrong website, games, videos and personal data or payment apps. Always keep these things password protected.

Visit childs mobile occasionally.
Our child also need privacy but child not understand how is outside world. So try to visit his/her mobile occasionally. Its best way to avoid unnecessary things.

Mobile Gaming.
Mobile Gaming is not only for children anyone can play game in any age. Due to the gaming some suicide cases happened in society. If your child is playing game it's ok, but we need to check how much time he/she has engage with that and how he is reacting after defeat. Because of mobile gaming lot of children getting angry suddenly.

How to identify addiction of mobile and gaming.
Who are spending too much time on mobile or gaming, video shooting, selfie, browsing social media and unnecessarily wasting their time those child are mostly addicted. He/she is not responding while using mobile. While gaming your child breathing is fast or sometime he/she is sweating too much in A.C room also. If condition is more critical then take an advice from expert.

Give them mobile for limited time and at proper age.
Mobile is very important. If child want mobile then give them don't say no, but for limited time only and keep important app password protected. With this trick at least you can understand how much time your child is engaged on it. Sometime you can personally offer your mobile for a while so child will be happy with your unexpected gift.  If you are giving personal mobile to your child then give him how much he actual required and at proper age.

Teach them the benefits and losses of mobile.
Parent must be guide their children about the benefits and losses of mobile. After guidance our child will understand the actual use of mobile. Its definitely beneficial for them.

Go for outdoor gaming with your child.
Try to start outdoor gaming for your child and you can start from yourself. Our child is definitely give positive respond. Try to engage your child with any sport or gymnastic club.

Password is important.
Password is important for all important apps. If your child is handing your mobile then keep your important apps password protected. This is very important practice we must be follow.

I hope now you understand some points about mobile and children. Why its important and how we are making them mobile addicted. How our children are reacted in some situations and how to divert them from it. As a parent we must be keep control on ourselves for mobile using then we will definitely find the changes in child attitude towards mobile.