Why is responsibility important?

Why is responsibility important?

We all have different responsibilities and everyone tries his best to fulfill it. But do we know why it is so important? and how does it change our lives? It is very different, such as ourselves, for our parents and children, our society and our country. We need to make our children realize their responsibilities as much as we give them other moral education.

To decide your goal.

I saw lot of people don't have goal in their life and they also don't know how to finalized their goal. Most of the people belongs to youth category.  You should take responsibility for setting your goal. Because of this you can set your life goals like finance, home, educational goals, professional achievement and official achievements etc.

To understand yourself.

We look at others all the time. But we do not try to test our inner qualities or correct our mistakes. We look at others positive or negative things. But we do not try to test your inner qualities or correct our mistakes. When you take responsibility we get busy and try to find your way and fix your old mistake. Responsibility give you the proper way of thinking.

Inspired by the achievement of others.

As we know, some people are always jealous of others. Because the others achieved a good place. responsible person never think like this. He gets new hope and inspiration from such things all the time. This is the way of thinking always bring them forward in any field. May be it will take some time for good results.

Teaches patience.

We have seen many young people who never work patiently. This is why they always make mistakes in their work or behavior. If we look at the behavior of responsible human beings, we realize that there is more patience in those people. Those people always keep patience while doing any activity.

Decision ability increases.

Decision making is very important in life. Responsibility teaches us what, when, how, what time to take it this decision and also informs its consequences. Due to responsibility, decision-making capacity increases, which is important for us throughout our life.

For work with unity.

We need unity if we want to complete big work. We need such unity everywhere. Such as office, sports, education, social work etc. To realize unity, it is very important for us to realize responsibility. Just like every community has a responsibility, but each of its candidates should feel a sense of responsibility. In large offices, an officer knows his responsibility, likewise his colleagues should know his responsibilities to come together and do good work. 

To Helping other.

Helping others is not easy as we think.. If any one not helping other in case of emergency , it's directly indicates that such person don't know about his social responsibility. Many people helping each other in school age, office and other social activities because they know their responsibility very well. These people protect the pillar of humanity.

To Respect Other.

Many people do not respect elders, family members and teachers. This type of behavior does not suit us. Because this behavior reflects our good ethics. If one is aware of the responsibility then that person knows how to respect the other and why. We need to realize this responsibility to our children so that our children become good citizens.

For Good Management.

A strong management is the backbone of our society as well as the organization. Whether it's belong to official or social. An irresponsible behavior or decision destroys the project and society. There are various examples are available in business industries how entire business empire collapsed due to one irresponsible decision. So we need a responsible management team to move forward.

To save relationship.

Some people lose important relationships in their lives whether it is spouse, parents, children, relatives or a friend. There are many reasons behind this. Anyone can take responsibility for improving it..  Due to this, some broken relationships also be reconnected. If this happens in our society, many families will spend their time with their loving person (spouse, parents, children, relatives and friends) and also get more happiness in their life.

I hope that you have now understood how important it is to have responsibilities in your life. How we play the role in it that is a different thing. If you work after understanding your responsibility, then you will see a ray of hope in every work. This will give us the way of our life.

Why We Want One More Chance?

Life is all about expectations and human expectations never end. We are struggling for fulfilling our expectations. In this technology world, we have missed some chances of performing. Only one point matters in some case. We are always thinking about that incident and saying, "If I get one more chance then I will perform much better than that!" This thinking makes our hope alive.

Chance of scoring well in academic career.

We judge person based on their academic score. Some parents have such habits but they forget about the interest of our child. Child always struggles for score to prove himself in this market. After getting our score card students try to apply for higher education and then they fail to get admission to become a doctor, engineer and other degree. Because of one point they fail and that time they require once chance to get that point.

Chance of moving ahead and proving yourself.
Every one want this chance to move ahead because of today's deadly rat race. Every one try to defeat other person but, in this race some people are not included. They are racing with their past or themselves only, they want to prove themselves like they are capable to do this. They always keep some challenges in front of them to move ahead or prove themselves and try to find one chance.

Chance of winning the game.

Life is also like one game, where we are playing different roles. When we come to ground game there are some teams which always reach till the last moment of match but because of one second, goal or chance they always lose in matches. These teams put all their effort to win the match but they can't win and this time they always demand one more chance.

Chance of expressing my love towards my parents.

In this busy life we are behaving like machine. Wake up on time, doing everything very fast to reach office on time, after office hours coming back to home to do our routine plan. Due to all these reasons mostly men forget to ask their parents about their health or what they want. We want one chance to express our love towards our parents.

Chance to make better relationship.
Some relationship is disturbed due to our busy schedule. Sometimes we are not giving time to our relationship, due to some misunderstanding our relationship disturb and finally situation worsen, in this case we need one chance to make this relationship much better or to avoid misunderstandings.

Chance of spending more time with my family.
We are always running behind money. While earning money, we forget to spend time with our family children and due to this our family not behaving properly or you can say mentally unstabilized. For children's mental and physical growth parent's attachment and communication is very important. We need one chance to spend our precious time with our family for keeping our family happy.

Chance of rejuvenating my child at young age.

Some people struggle a lot in their childhood or young age due to family financial condition or early age responsibility, they sacrifice everything whatever they want to do at that age. I know this is not possible to go back in childhood, but these people need one chance to feel their childhood age to spend their life happily.

Chance of teaching good ethics to my children.
Mostly parents are thinking like this, while they are staying away from their children in their old age, they are always blaming themselves for this reason. There are various reasons behind this not only this one but sometimes child make big mistake of their life and due to this, his career is spoiled. Every parent must teach good ethics to their children before something goes bad with them or their children.

Chance of correcting and apologize for my mistake.

Every one need this chance because we are human being and we are learning lot of things from out side world. We are learning something new at every stage of our life and while learning we do some mistakes. We feel guilty about some mistakes and we spend our entire life with that guiltiness. We always want to correct and apologize for that mistake. That's why we always need one chance.

Chance of helping others.

In this society some people have a helping nature. These people always try to help others but due to some unconditional reason, they can't. They are not expecting anything from this help, just because of their helping behavior they always find one chance of helping others.

Now we understand why we need one chance in our life. No one is perfect in this life. Every one makes mistake and they must learn from that. Mistake is like a lesson, lesson of how to live in society, how to behave, how to manage things,  how to prove ourselves and how to win in the game of life. In every stage of life we get lot of chances in a different ways. So, don't get upset. We must focus on our goal, our good ethics and believe ourselves.

Am I Lonely..?

We have lot of options to live our life with own way. Some people always engage with their own work, social activity and some are engaging in different things. There are some people/children who are not joining with society or not playing games with children. But they are silent part of the our society. There is any reason behind his/her silent? or they like to live alone.

Not understanding things.

All people or children don't have equal grasping power. There are various reason behind it. Some peoples/ child not understanding things easily and that's why they stayed alone or you can say feeling alone. These peoples need more guidance and helping hands from our society.

No one can understand me.
Few people are always thinking like this. They are always chasing such situation. Only because of they are small or they not able to present themselves that's why no one listening him or neglect and because of this behavior or other, such phobia developed in child / persons mind. They blame everyone like no one understand me and they preferred keep silent. We need to identify such person and try to listen them before they feel lonely.

Not comfortable with other people.

These people are not feeling comfortable with other peoples. They try to live alone due to various reason. They never express their feelings with anyone easily. They not try to copy anyone and most of time they live with their own style. These people personally change them self and need to enjoy the movement.

Fear of Loose.

Most of the people thinking because of his intervene they loose their relationship with someone. Some time they trying to hide past from lovable person that's why they always keep mum. This fear always forcing them to stay alone. We must change such thinking. May be because of it we can loose someone.

Someone take benefit of my behavior.

These children and peoples knows their own weakness. They are always thinking, if I talk with anyone then they will know my weakness and may be they will take benefits of that. Some peoples don't want to speak about their life for avoiding communication they preferred to stay alone. These people learn how to make judgement on their expressing skill like how to and where to express.

Low confidence.

Who are having low confidence, they never try to speak in public or hesitate while speak with other. These people always stay away from additional activity. They have already decided before trying "I am not capable to do it!". Due to it people not allow such people to join with them or always harass him. Confidence is very important and its not possible to buy from anywhere, we must develop inside.

Past Incident.

With the past bad incident These peoples stuck with it. Again and again they remind that and most of the time they think about it in alone. They never try to come out from it. Sometime they never get solution on it and they feel lonely.  People have challenges in their life and everyone try to find out the solution on that. Sometime they get it but when they fail they go in depression and feel lonely. If we facing trouble or any issue with the past incident then we must forget about it to keep our mind calm and to move ahead in life.

Why this is happening with me only?

Everyone struggle in their own life for achieve different goal as they decided. When they fail, they are thinking like this "Why this is happening with me only?" and because of it they get upset. Whenever they feel such situation they demotivate them self with this sentence and they start feeling lonely. If we are feeling like this then we must remember one thing, there is a reason behind happening anything. Need to learn from it to come out.

Most of the people feels lonely in their life. But sometime only they are responsible for it. You have potential inside you but you don't know about it. Every one has something special inside. Just try to find and move ahead with it.

Try to increase your knowledge to understand the things. If people not understand you then don't try to explain them or get upset due to it. It mean they don't have understanding capacity. Just forget about it and enjoy the things. If you are not comfortable with some people try to find out to whom you feel comfortable. Don't think about to whom you will loose or gain this is simple life and sometime time will bring back them to you. For behavior you must upgrade yourself with increasing your knowledge. Confidence is mandatory in our life without it you not able to do anything. Try to motivate yourself because no one can know more then you. Human past playing very important role in his future but we need to learn from past and act in present to avoid future mistakes. We are just thinking it's happening with me only but reality is every one suffer from different challenges but not saying this. They try to overcome from it to avoid loneliness. 

हम तो लडकियां है ना..!

हम सभी पाठशालाओंकी छुट्टीयोको अपने अपने गाव में जाते है। गाव में तो मौसम बहुत अच्छा होता है। हर साल छुट्टीयोको गाव में जाना तो अब आदत सी हो गई है। बहुत दिनों बाद गाव को देखके हमें बहुत सुकून मिलता है। वहां की ताजी हवायें, वहां का साफ पानी, बहती नदियाँ, सभी जगह खेतो की हरियाली ये सब तो जैसे स्वर्ग जमीनपर उतरा है ऐसा प्रतीत होता है।

ऐसे ही एक साल मई महीने में हम गांव गए थे। शहर का बाबू आया, यह देखने के लिए पड़ोस के लोग जमा हुए थे। खास कर गावों के बच्चो को शहर के बच्चो का बड़ा आकर्षण होता है। संध्या का समय बहुत अच्छा लग रहा था।

बाते करते करते समय बीतता जा रहा था, पर हम बातोमे ही लगे पड़े थे। बहुत सारी बातें चल रही थी, अचानक सवाल किसीने पूछा था। "शहरो में लड़किया स्कूल कैसे जाती है?" तो मैंने कहा पैदल, बस, या फिर गाड़ी से। तो फिर दूसरा सवाल आया, "क्या उन लडकियोंको डर नहीं लगता?" मैंने चौंक के कहा "डर, किस बातका?" तो जवाब आया, "आवारा लड़कोंका!" मैंने कहा, "वहाँ की लड़कियां बहुत निडर होती है!"

क्यों क्या हुआ, तो वो बोली "यहाँ कुछ लड़के हम लडकियोंको रोज परेशान करते है! तो मैंने उनको कहा, "जितना डरोगी उतना वे परेशान करते रहेंगे आप निडर हो के उनका सामना करना चाहिये ना की चुप रहके!"

उन्होंने कहा, "हम कैसे कर सकेंगे, हम तो लडकियां है ना!" मैंने कहा क्या तुम गावके बुर्जुग लोगोको यह बात बताके उनको ध्यान रखने के लिए नहीं कह सकती? या फिर, पुलिस को बताके या फिर खुद कुछ क्यों नहीं करती जैसे की, उनको खुद ही एक बार जोर से चेतावनी दे दो की, अगली बार अगर हमें परेशांंन किया तो पुलिस को बताऊंगी या फिर हम सबका तुम यही मार खाओगे!" ये सलाह देने के बाद हम सब खाना खाके सो गए और छुट्टियां ख़त्म होने के बाद, हम अपने घर लौट गए।

छह माहीने बाद हमें एक शादी के लिये गाव को जाने का अवसर मिला। उसी शादी मै वो सवाल पूछने वाली रिश्तेदार लड़की से मुलाकात हुई तो उसने बताया, "जैसे अपने चेतावनी के बारे में बताया वैसे ही हमने बुर्जुगो को बताके उनको चेतावनी दी थी, और तुरंत उसके दूसरे दिन से लडके कभी आस पास भी दिखाई नहीं दिए!"

 ये जो बात अभी अपने पढ़ी ये बात सिर्फ शहरोंमें ही नहीं गावों में भी होती है और एक छोटासा मार्गदर्शन इन लड़कियों की प्रेरणा बन सकता है।

हम अगर निडर नहीं बनेगे तो आगे चलकर हमें बहुत परेशानियोंका सामना करना पड़ सकता है।हमें अपने अंदरके डर को हटाना होगा। ऐसे हालात लड़कियां खुद बदल सकती है। क्योंकि जब तक वे आवाज नहीं उठाती तब तक किसीको पता ही नहीं चलेगा और ऐसे लोगोंकी हिम्मत हर वक्त बढ़ती रहेगी।

मैं कुछ नाम यहाँ देना चाहता हूँ, जो की आपको प्रेरित करते रहेंगे। जिन्होंने अलग अलग क्षेत्र में अपना योगदान दिया है। अगर इन महिलाओने इसी तरह सोचा होता तो आज ये नाम शायद किसी को पता नहीं होता।

अ) रानी लक्ष्मीबाई - प्रथम महिला स्वतंत्रता संग्राम सेनानी.

१) सावित्रीबाई फुले -प्रथम महिला शिक्षिका।
२) आनंदी गोपालराव जोशी - प्रथम महिला डॉक्टर।
३) रमाबाई रानडे -  प्रथम महिला अधिकार कार्यकर्ता।
४) इंदिरा गाँधी - प्रथम महिला प्रधान मंत्री।
५) मदर तेरेसा - प्रथम सामाजिक सेविका।
६) प्रतिभाताई पाटील - प्रथम महिला राष्ट्रपति।
७) कल्पना चावला - प्रथम अंतरिक्ष जाने वाली महिला।
८) फातिमा बीवी -  प्रथम महिला न्यायाधीश।
९) सानिया मिर्ज़ा - प्रथम महिला है जो की जीती है महिला टेनिस एसोसिएशन (WTA) और विश्व में नं. १ हासिल किया है।
१०) साइना नेहवाल - प्रथम महिला जो की बैडमिंटन ओलंपिक्स पदक जीती है, और विश्व में नं.१ हासिल किया है।
११) बचेंद्री पाल - माउंट एवेरेस्ट की चोटी पर पहुचने वाली प्रथम महिला।
१२) मेरी कॉम - ६ बार World Amateur Boxing champion जीती हुई प्रथम महिला।
१३) किरण बेदी - प्रथम महिला आई. पी. एस. (I.P.S.)
१४) अन्ना मल्होत्रा - प्रथम महिला आईएएस (I.A.S.)
१५) प्रिया झिंगन - प्रथम भारतीय सेना महिला अधिकारी।
१६) गुंजन सक्सेना और दीपिका मिश्रा प्रथम महिलायें भारतीय वायु सेना।
१७) भारत के विशेष बल डॉ. सीमा राव (India's Wonder Women) प्रथम भारतीय कमांडो ट्रेनर।
१८) टेसी थॉमस - प्रथम महिला वैद्यानिक जो की मिसाइल परियोजनकी मुख्य अधिकारी है।

इन महिलाओने आसानी से यह ऊचाई हासिल नहीं की है। ये सब अनगिनत कठिनाओसे बाहर निकलकर आगे आयी है। अगर यह सब ऐसी सोच रखती तो शायद आज इनका नाम तक हमे पता नहीं होता।

यह सब नाम पढनेके बाद किसी लड़कियों या महिलाओंके मनमे डर नहीं रहना चहिये। जब तक आप खुद मानसिक तौर पर मजबूत नहीं होते हो तब तक आप किसी भी परिस्थितिका सामना नहीं कर सकते है। 

क्या आज भी ऐसा सोचनेवाली लड़कियां  है? अगर हा, तो ऐसी सोच इनको बदलनी चाहिए। और यह कहना चाहिए, "हा हम लड़कियां है और हम सब कुछ कर सकती है!"

I Quit..!!

The one word that "I Quit" and game is over. Where it belongs to playground or our life. On ground game, you can play again but when it comes to life there is no next chance available. Nowadays suicide is easiest way out, solution from all life challenges, or you can say difficulties. Lot of families are already suffering because they are losing their dear ones due to suicide. Some parents lose their single child also. Therefore, we need to understand first why this is happening ?

Who can think?

Most of the time such thinking is found in school age students to old age mind. In child age, we do not have capacity to understand the things. When our mind is developing that time, we understand the surrounding and try to act with their comfort or ours. At this time actual game is starting.

I am not capable.

When anyone facing challenges in their life one very important thing that comes in their mind is “I am not capable to do this”. This is happening because they don’t have knowledge or they don’t want to try only because they have fear of failure. They don’t know about their inner heart.

Every One Blaming Me.

Some people are having habits who are always blaming other people who have a silent personality or physically/ mentally weak. They are not thinking about that person's situation. At this time these people prefer to stay alone and are always thinking about past incident. Most of the time they do not discuss with any one and prefer to stay alone with their own thinking.

Unexpected things happening in surrounding.

Expectation is human personality, but such people are thinking whatever they are expecting must be happened. With this thinking, they are trapping themselves and getting frustrated. They are suddenly getting angry each and every time.

Phobia of others expectation.

Parent are always expect from our child about their own uncompleted dream in his life or about higher ranking in school colleges. Direct or indirect they are putting pressure on their child. Sometimes they are using wrong language or sometimes beating them. Because of this children are living under pressure and getting frustrated.

Too much emotional.

This is another human personality. Some people are too much emotional about their own job, object, relationship or thinking. These people are soft hearted. We can easily identify these people in our area. One word is enough to hurt these people.

Relationship issue (Expectation and Misunderstanding).

Most of the time people expecting too much from their relationship and due to some misunderstanding, suicide case happens in child-parent, husband-wife, mother in law-daughter in law, friends relationship.

Lack of guidance, knowledge and path not found.

Guidance is very important in every stage of our life but such people are not getting this on time and situation is gets worse. Such people are trying to get the knowledge about it to come out from that. When they fail in it, their mind tries to search easy ways like suicide.

Stretching Past pain again.

There are lot of people who are always stuck with their past and unnecessarily taking responsibility that was painful and they do not want to leave this thinking. These thinking always pressurize themselves toward negative mind. Sometimes they hurt themselves again and again.

Losing hopes.

Very important aspect of life is hope. When some people are trying lot of ways in their life like adjusting, sacrifice, guidance, upgrading themselves in every situation but after doing all these things still they do not get satisfied with it. Then no adjustment, sacrifice, guidance, trouble or any tension. The final solution is suicide…...!

How to handle this situation.

We need to understand our child. This is not an easy task to understand the child or any one physiology. However, we can guess what the exceptions are then we can take decision accordingly. All parents must understand our child behavior to reduce too much fear about us. If anyone is afraid of you, he will not try to express his feelings in front of you. Friendly behavior is very important in family or in relationship. We must teach our child or loved ones about the emotional things. How to manage and handle the emotions. How to maintain emotional balance in every situation of life.

How to prepare yourself.

In this mental stage, we must try to upgrade our self with other guidance, opinion or engaging with other activity like playing outdoor games, go for long ride, watch favorite movies, go for a picnic, read jokes, do whatever you want to make yourself happy. Do not stretch the things, try to forgive or forget. There is no point in stretching, it will only hurt you not anyone else. There is always another way / solution available for every difficulties. See the difficulties as a chance of growth. Make yourself positive in various ways. Understand your inner strength. Then see, you will get lot of ways to live life happily because nothing is permanent in this life.

Believe in yourself…!

Traffic Of 1st Half.

One day I was stuck in a heavy traffic while going to the office. After a long wait I felt something when I saw a Tea stall then I came out of the bus and sent a message to my official group for intimate my team.

I ordered a cutting tea and looked at the entire traffic. Some people were inside the luxurious car who were horning, some were inside the bus and some in rickshaw who were shouting. Everyone was in a hurry may be for their office, meeting, traveling or delivering something or dropping someone else.

Our life is also like this. we are getting lot of obstacles like traffic. Some people are having money problem, career related issues, family problems, social problems, relationships problem and general issues and we are trying find the path from the traffic to move on the smoother path of life for enjoying the journey.

In such situations some peoples are upset, depressed, feeling uncomfortable, and loosing their hops. They never try to find out the path where it is the comfortable way to go ahead. who are trying to search the path  they will definitely come out from this situation and who can't they are blaming each other.

In this fast world everyone thinks, If I am not going fast enough then entire world will go ahead. With this thinking human are pushing them self in deadly rat race and because of it we loose our satisfaction. 

Some time we are helping others by giving a chance to move ahead without expecting anything from them and its reflecting our humanity and for next time other person also behave like this. Some people's can't do this only because of their ego, fear and they don't like if anyone going ahead.

As we are trying to find the path to move ahead without disturbing anyone this  is called a judgement and this judgement depends on our own experience. Its may vary from person to person. How much we run in our life, how much traffic we got and how we came out from that using our past experiences, Its depends on us. We need better Guidance, understanding, relationships and indications to make this judgement perfect. Every time our judgement will be not right, in such cases we need to take help from other person without hesitating to make it perfect.

Whenever we start our journey, that time we are always afraid of traffic but we forget about what we are going to learn? We learn lot more judgement from this traffics to live this life happily. 

We need lot of traffic to enjoy the smoother journey of life. So, play the song and enjoy your every traffic time to move ahead.

With the smile, I have finished last sip of the tea and read that intimated message again. "I am coming in 2half due to heavy traffic."